When someone we love is in a relationship that feels one-sided, manipulative, or emotionally harmful, it can stir up deep worry and helplessness. Whether it’s a daughter with a narcissistic partner or a friend stuck in a toxic dynamic, we often ask ourselves: What can I do? How can I help her see it? Am I doing too much…or not enough?
At Sandy Shores Counseling, we walk alongside clients who are navigating these complex situations every day. If you’re in this position, you’re not alone, and there is a way to support your loved one while also taking care of yourself.
1. Understand What You’re Seeing
Not all difficult relationships are abusive or narcissistic, but some patterns, like gaslighting, constant criticism, or controlling behavior, can be signs of emotional harm. Educating yourself about narcissistic tendencies can help you approach the situation from a place of clarity, not just emotion.
2. Be a Safe Landing Spot
One of the most powerful things you can do is stay emotionally available. People in toxic relationships often feel isolated or ashamed. Let her know that no matter what happens, you’re someone she can come to without judgment or pressure. This safety can be the anchor she needs to start seeing things clearly.
3. Set Boundaries Around Your Role
You can’t rescue someone from their relationship—but you can protect your peace. Decide what you’re able to offer emotionally and practically, and be honest with yourself. If conversations about her partner leave you drained, it’s okay to say, “I want to support you, but I also need to take care of myself.”
4. Offer Skills, Not Solutions
Ask gently: “Are you looking for advice or just needing to vent right now?” This question invites her to be in control of the conversation. If she’s open to ideas, share communication tools or coping strategies. If not, your listening ear is enough.
5. Get Your Own Support
When you’re the one worrying day and night, you need space to talk too. Therapy can help you process the fear, anger, and helplessness you might be carrying. At Sandy Shores Counseling, we provide a nonjudgmental space to sort through those emotions and build a plan that feels grounded and healthy.
You don’t have to carry this alone.
If someone you love is in a relationship that concerns you, we’re here to support you, too. Whether you need a place to talk, tools to navigate difficult dynamics, or just a reminder that you’re not powerless, Sandy Shores Counseling is here to walk beside you.
Ready to talk? Reach out to schedule a free consultation today.
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